Concerns For A Friend

Loosing a friend is definitely an emotional toll. I went through the fall out of, what I thought was a good friendship some time last summer.

It started when she misunderstood a status I had put on Facebook thinking I was talking about her when I clearly was not. She then basically flipped out on me, we had a disagreement and then she stopped talking to me and unfriended me on Facebook. She then finally sent me an e-mail saying that I act like a pinched child and that she doesn’t think we could or should be friends. She also said it had nothing to do with my thoughts on politics (which is random because none of our disagreement was about politics) and then goes on to say how wrong my ideas on politics are anyway. But the funny thing is how childish she was being – she said that if I responded to the e-mail that I should know I’d never hear from her again.

The whole thing was completely out of the blue. I spent months thinking I had done something really wrong (other than be bad at disagreements and explaining my opinion lol). I even had bad dreams about it. Then, a few weeks ago, she hacked her husbands Facebook page and had him unfriend me and block me from even finding him or herself on Facebook.

I ended up posting about how I thought my friend had gone overboard. Then one of whom I thought was a close friend of hers (they were close friends in high school and at LSCC) messaged me. They said that our friend had basically done the same thing to them and is barely friends with her other close friend. This only confirms what James had told me when she first ended our friendship.

We’ve all kind of come to this conclusion that she  just decided to change everything about herself ( for example – theology, politics, etc) and was just looking for an excuse to cut ties with any old friends who felt differently (no matter how big or small that difference was) because she feels threatened by different opinions for some strange reason. We also feel that as good as we think things are going for her, she probably feels unhappy with where she is in life and might not have enough emotional support from certain people in her life.

After we talked I’ve come to realize that she unfriended people when good things started happening to us. The one friend left for college and got in where she wanted to and was in a great relationship. When she unfriended me, James and I had just moved to Austin and bought our first house and a brand new Honda Fit (which is not *that* cheap of a car). Basically we were all happy and it seems like she was jealous and the only thing she could do to make herself feel better was to find excuses to end our friendships so she wouldn’t be reminded of how happy her friends are.

We’ve all also agreed that none of us dislike her and kind of just feel sorry for her. If anything, we’re all still kind of confused. I know me personally, I’d still be willing to be her friend. I know she’s probably having a tough time with school and having had to move clear across the country from everyone she knows and it can be very stressful. I still consider her my friend. I always forgive and forget. I just want to move on.  I know some of her other friends that she did the same thing to will also probably still be friends with her again if she asks. And if she ever wants to be friends again I will be here waiting.

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